Traillblazer Ministries - Missionary to China

Marriage is a part of life for most and for the Christian it has a special meaning. Jesus is the groom and the Church is the bride. That mean we will marry Him in heaven one day.

(MKJV) Mat 9:15 And Jesus said to them, Can the sons of the bridechamber mourn as long as the bridegroom is with them? But the days will come when the bridegroom shall be taken away from them, and then they shall fast.

(MKJV) Rev 21:2 And I, John, saw the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down from God out of Heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her Husband.

(MKJV) Rev 19:9 And he said to me, Write, Blessed are those who have been called to the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he said to me, These are the true sayings of God.

Q1/ We are His bride to be. (True or False)

Q2/ He won us by His sacrifice. (True or False)

Q3/ Jesus lost everything through His sacrifice but gained the world. (True or False)

(MKJV) 1Co 11:3 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

How does Jesus rule us?

(MKJV)Eph 5:21 submitting yourselves to one another in the fear of God.

Q4/ We should Submit ourselves making ourselves available, to serve and to honour each other. (True or False)

Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. : 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

Q5/ In this modern day women throughout the world find these scriptures difficult to handle. (True or False)

Q6/ Some men like these ones above, because they think they can rule over their wife like a king. (True or False)

Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Q7/ This verse shows the women the way to approach and deal with their husband. (True or False)

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it,

The Love here is a powerful love (agapaho) to lay your life down for you wife.

Q8/ Sacrifice is nothing to be ashamed of but something to be proud of. (True or False)

You can get angry with your partner about things and think about what you have lost, but if you love someone you will sacrifice your position and give in.

Q9/ If we stop sacrificing one for another we lose what makes us Christians and different to the world. (True or False)

Sacrifice is the noblest thing we can do.

You may think you are losing something but you are really passing it onto someone who needs it more.

(MKJV) Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh.

As we can see in this scripture the man shall leave his parents and stay close, stick to and support his wife.

Q10/ Should stay with his mother. (True or False)

Three stages of marriage

 1/ Honeymoon

 2/ Get to know you

 3/ True love of maturity

Eph 5:26 that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word,

Q11/ There are two stages of Marriage. (True or False)

Building memories

An act of love affects you marriage, but it doesn’t stop there, it goes on from generations to generations

Depositing into the emotional and love bankbook of marriage is the opposite to the way in which the world thinks.

Q12/ An act of love will have a long impact on your marriage. (True or False)

Q13/ The marriage of the world or non-believer want to take in most cases from their partner. (True or False)

A Man and a Woman.

Man and woman think differently, Examples below show just a few different thinking patterns

 She will say one thing and mean something different and she expects him to know.

 He should know what has to be done to solve all the problems.

 If only she would do what she is told to do?

 He doesn’t understand.

 She doesn’t want him to solve the problems she only wants him to listen.

 He expects me to do this and I won’t.

 She expects me to do this and I won’t.

Q14/ We should try to change our partner. (True or False)

Q15/ We should know what the other person is thinking. (True or False)

Different Cultures.

Imagine one is Chinese and the other is a foreigner.

Different cultures deal with problems from a different perspective. You only need to look at the United Nations to see how these problems get out of hand.

We do it this way in my country and we know its right and you should change your whole way of looking at life and do it my way, then everything will work and I will be happy.

Q16/ Should we care if our partner is not happy. (Yes or No)

Q17/ Each one wants the other to give up their culture. (True or False)

Naturally no one wants to change themselves because each one thinks that their mother brought them up and they are “ok”. So what is the problem? We naturally think it’s the other one that needs to change. A selfish attitude such as this will destroy a marriage.

You need to make a choice about the way you are behaving if you want your marriage to work. You can select one of the three below if you want it to work and the other two are destructive.

1. Make your partner do it your way. (Destroy their spirit, break them)

2. Get devoiced now. (Walk away and don’t try and admit you were wrong.)

3. Make an agreement to Follow God’s word. (Try)

Q18/ God’s word will help us to make our marriage work. (True or False)

Q19/ Some marriages fail because of selfishness. (True or False)

Before we can go any further you need to take this test, if you fail don’t feel condemned go your own way and cause no more pain to each other, but remember your children will suffer.

 Q1 Do you love each other?

 Q2 Do you love your child or children?

 Q3 Do you want to be happy together?

 Q4 Do you both want your Marriage to be successful?

 Q5 Do you believe that the word of God is the Word of God?

 Q6 Do you both want to follow the instruction as setout in the Word of God?

There are six question list above if you have got six yes’s and zero no’s you have a chance of your marriage working.

If you got any no’s it is going to be difficult, but it could work.

If you got all no’s, you could go your own way, but God still doesn’t like divorce.

Phi 4:12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound. In everything and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. 13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. 14 Yet you did well in sharing my troubles.(MKJV)

Q20/ Jesus want to help you in your marriage. (True or False)

Read the below scriptures to help you in your marriage.

1 Peter 1: 22

1 Peter 3: 1,11

Proverbs 10: 12

Proverbs 3: 5,6

Psalm 101: 2

Romans 13: 10

Joshua 24: 15

Ephesians 5: 21,33

Ephesians 4: 31,32

Genesis 2: 18 & 24